How  to  Be  Creative  in  Building  Wealth

by  Maria Chona N. Tapucar, Ph.D.

Wealth  may  carry  with  it  a lot of definitions  depending  on  the culture, personal values, needs, etc. of the people. To   some, for  example, it  means  abundance  of  valuable  possessions  or  resources.  To  others,  it entails  huge  amounts  of money  in  the  bank, perfect  health,  great  relationships, and/or  good education. Whatever meaning we attach to it, though, here is one way of building it.

Requirements

• Appropriate Knowledge
• Self-Discipline
• Good Judgment
• Management Skills

Steps Involved

1  Have a goal in mind.

2  Know where you stand with regards to it.

3  Manage your  money  well  by  applying  several  strategies: (a) Save  as  much  as  possible, spend  on your needs  in  most cases, and  check your cash flow  as often as you can. (b)Invest in anything you can afford --- real estate, stocks, bonds, business  ventures, etc. (c) Protect  your resources from both possible man-made damages  and  natural  calamities. (d) Limit  debts  to necessary  items  which  you really  can not purchase in cash. Pay them as soon as possible to prevent yourself from paying high interest rates.

4  Enjoy your life with your loved  ones and other people you like. Spend your time and resources doing the things you are passionate about while your wealth continues to pile up.

Important Information

• Have  a  healthy  relationship  with  money.  Use  it  as a tool to make yourself, your life, and the life of other people better each day.
• Be  wisely generous.  Remember  that  wealth  shared  will  always  go  back to you in tenfolds or more.
• Don't worship money as if it is your god. Don't take it for granted either.
• Take extra care in investing your money or in using your money, in general.

How  to  Get  Unstuck

by Maria Chona N. Tapucar, Ph.D.

Getting  unstuck  is  a pre-requisite  to  creating  a  difference  in our lives. No matter how great our vision is, hence, if  we  continue  the  habitual  patterns  that  we are accustomed to and are comfortable with, the only guarantee is our getting of the exact same results we always end up with. 

Requirements

• Accountability
• Belief in Oneself
• Courage
• Creative Action

Steps Involved

1  Define your desire.

2  Identify the attitude, habits, and other things you have which obstruct the road to your desire.

3  Hold yourself accountable for the things that are happening in a pattern in your life.

4  Enjoy  the  good  side  of  those occurrences and  make a list of the things you have learned from their bad side.

5  Explore  other  opportunities which  will  move  you towards your  desire and which will build on the good things  that  you  have  already  been  doing  while  allowing  you  to  correct or improve on your unfavorable deeds.

6  Take   some  time  to  evaluate  your actions   in   line  with  your  desire. Do  the  necessary  adjustments  if possible.

7  Celebrate and "live your desire".

Important Information

• Always do things in relation to your desire.
• Break  down   each  step  into  smaller, more  manageable  ones   to   encourage   having   many  smaller successes  which  can  make  you  feel  more  confident  about  yourself  and  more  motivated to move forward.
• Handle any negative emotion felt along the way with care: denial, fear, frustration, etc.
• Be firm yet gentle with yourself.  Don't be too self-critical.

How to Face a Cheating Husband & the Other Woman Without Losing Him

by   Maria Chona N. Tapucar, Ph.D.

Bearing  in mind  that  relationships  differ  in  many aspects and each individual involved is a dynamic being who is  unique, facing  a  cheating  husband  and  the other lady is really a tough thing to consider --- granting that he  still  has a place for his wife in his heart, mind, and soul. With some preparations and strong belief in oneself, in the marriage, etc., nonetheless, it should not be too difficult to deal with.

Requirements

• Self-love
• Family & Other Support
• Will to let go
• Accountability
• Love for the Husband
• Forgiveness
• Compassion
• Strength and Courage
• Patience
• Strong Desire to make the marriage work again

Steps Involved

1  Get the support from the other family members and trusted people, especially those who are close to both of you. If possible, ask for a professional help from a life coach or somebody else.

2  Allow  enough  time to heal yourself  from  the  painful  emotions  which came with the affair, to truly love yourself  because "you are you" (not  because of  other  people or  things  in  your life), to refrain from doing some  things  which are based on the negative emotions you have, and to give each other some space to view the turn of events objectively.

3  Have  an  honest  and  civil  discussion  with  your  husband  to  figure out the exact reason/s for having an affair. In  doing so, you  would  know how to "win him back" and how to "get rid of the other woman". At this point, though, you  should  also  be  humble  and  responsible  enough  to  consider  the  fact  that you may be directly or indirectly playing a role in that affair.

4  Work  on  allowing  both  of  you t o  re-discover  your  shared  goals  as  a  married  couple while forgiving him, the other  lady, and  yourself (or  the  past  in  general), re-building your trust in him, and believing that over time things will lead to "a better married life".

5  With  compassion (knowing  that  each  person  involved  is  hurt  in  different degrees), initiate a heart-to-heart talk with the other lady --- with  the  help  of  trusted  people. And, based  on  the  knowledge  you  have obtained  from  Step 3, get her to do the things which will cut off the relationship she has with your husband.

6  Be  creative   in   finding  ways  to  rekindle  the  passion  and  love  you  have  for  each  other.  Apply  them whenever possible. And, celebrate together their positive results once in a while.

Important Information

• Remember to deal things with self-love.
• Be convinced that you are the person who can deeply change your marriage for the better.
• Avoid using accusatory words and refrain from giving negative comments.
• Discuss about your feelings in talking about events related to the affair.
• Listen to and follow objective advices only.
• Refrain  from  declaring  an  ultimatum --- angrily  making  your husband choose between you and the other lady as his partner in life --- especially at the start of the "marriage therapy".
• Be  prepared  to  let  go  of  the past even if it means letting go of your husband for good (because he is making   it  clear   that  he  does   not  love   you  anymore   and   he  does  not  want  to  have   a  lifetime committment with you anymore either).

How  to  Become  Whole  Again  After  a  Broken Heart

by Maria Chona N. Tapucar

A  broken  heart  is  usually  a  result  of  a loss  and/or  a failed  relationship. And,  it  comes  with a myriad of feelings  ---  hurt, sadness,  frustration, loneliness,  anxiety,  fear, and  others.  To  get  over  it  and  be  whole again, a gentle process is called for.

Requirements

• Honesty
• Open and "Creative" Mind
• Inner Strength
• Self-Love

Steps Involved

1  Accept  the emotions that go with the broken heart and grieve. Express yourself in ways which are helpful to you for a reasonable time.

2  Forgive  yourself  and  the other party. Believe that everything happened for a reason and talk about your experience with trusted people (e.g. your friends, close family members, life coach, etc.) in order to get "the experience" out of your system & to look at it in another angle --- as objective as you can.

3  Let  go  of  the  emotions  and  other  things  attached  to  the  experience  in  order  to  free   you  up  of  the unnecessary baggage and to open yourself up to changes or new opportunities.

4  Re-build  your  self-esteem  using  different   strategies  which  may  include  the  following --- (a) thinking, saying, and doing positive things; (b)spending some time with supportive people in doing things that you are good  at; (c) rewarding   yourself   for   any  accomplished   task; (d)  initiating   friendly   conversations   with strangers; (e) volunteering  your  time  and  expertise  to your  favorite  charitable institution; (f) listening to speeches  or  songs  which  are inspiring  or  motivating; or (g) watching movies which are educational or can make you smile and laugh.

5  Spend  some  time  to be  alone (but  not lonely) in order to heal, understand, accept, and  love  yourself as well as to prepare yourself for your future --- to move on.

6  Go out of your shell and face life again.

Important Information

• Be true to yourself.
• The  cited  process  may  be applied to  any  form of broken relationship: in marriage, in friendship, in love, in employment, etc.
• Remember that each goodbye means a hello to new beginnings.
• Since healing takes time, be patient.
• Exercise caution in expressing your emotions.